Love/Knot/Not?

This post has been pending for a really long time. This is another side (and not a counter argument!) to this. Now, to have jotted down all of that, Niki was either high or he really does believe in Cupid. While I believe in love myself, there are certain things about this elusive phenomenon that irritate me. Now N believes in soul mates. And why just Niki, everybody does. Anybody who doesn’t, is a big fat pretentious liar. But my question is not about us. Not about people who are mature enough to date, have break ups, rebounds and bounce back over the week end. My question is about people who never really see love in the same light as we do. About girls and boys who never really understand their own selves but are married off. About our senior folks who never had the privilege to get to ‘know’ the person before tying the knot. Can soul mates be chosen by our parents/anybody else? “The girl/boy you land up spending the rest of your life with-will eventually be your soul mate” Will s/he? My parents got like 5 minutes with each other before they got married. 5 minutes??!! YOU’VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME! That’s the time I take to acknowledge the fact that a cute guy is looking my way (only to realize that he is actually checking out the hot femme standing behind me!). How can ANYBODY just get 5 minutes with a person and know + come-to-terms-with + accept this other person as her/his soul mate?? Now personally I‘ve not seen a happier couple. Ma and papa are happy with each other. Most of our parents are. But wouldn’t have they made innumerous compromises to get where they are today? To celebrate a 25th wedding anniversary. To build a home. To bring up their kids in a way that they stand bloody confidently on their feet. Is that love or just successfully living together? And doesn’t having to make compromises mean having to compromise on love?* Maybe it does. Maybe it doesn’t. Or was it commitment?

What about those people who live on the streets. Does love really play all that important a role in their lives? Doesn’t sustenance top their charts? Does the guy, who drinks his money away over feeding his children, deserve love? And what about the guy who beats his wife daily, does he love her? More importantly, does she deserve it? Doesn’t she deserve to have a soul mate? Shouldn’t love stay the same irrespective of whether you are educated or not? Whether you’re affluent enough or not? Shouldn’t people get married ONLY when they MEAN their vows and not because you’re fucking 25 and late marriage will result into a complicated pregnancy? Well hello, do I even want to have a child with the person who’s not my soul mate in the first place? And should I not be allowed to pour boiling oil on people who cannot keep their mouths shut?

I try not to pontificate on the nature of relationships. I’ve not been in one for years now. They say that the people who appreciate sex the most are the ones who aren’t having it. I’d venture to say the same thing about love. Sometimes people who AREN’T in love are the ones who most recognize the reckless abandon and beautiful craziness that it is. They know, because like a child, they’ve learnt from watching. They know ‘cuz right now they’re too scared/stubborn/independent to take the fall. Or maybe they haven’t found the one worth falling for. Maybe I don’t have him now. Maybe I won’t ever find him (shudders). But if and when I have him, I’d embrace the fall, ‘cuz I know what it takes.

*Don’t tell me that compromise is out of love. That’s just a ton of shit.

PS: Dad’s budday today! :D me LOVES you puppa :)
Also, A’s b’day today. Think I’ll wish him. After all, Love is all you need :)

What are the odds..current song on the cell phone-Pehla Nasha :)

Pic Courtsey: Chain Mails!